“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” (ESV – Read the chapter)
The Scriptures are often pegged as being anti-woman. They create a world in which women are expected to be submissive to their men, serve their men, support their men, and basically go with and do whatever they say. They are not to have any roles in the church, but are to be there and be silent. They aren’t seen as leadership material at all either. At least, that’s how the narrative often goes. And then you actually read what it has to say…
When you take time to actually read what the Scriptures have to say about women–all of it and not just bits and pieces cherry-picked to make a point–you quickly realize that maybe the culture has been getting it wrong all along. Women may be called to submit to their husbands (an issue we’ve talked about before here) and there may be some verses in the New Testament that seem to restrict the role women can play in the church (we’ve also talked about these before–here–and the fact that what restrictions there are aren’t nearly what they seem at first glance), but the picture of the ideal, godly woman found within the pages of the Scriptures is not at all what our culture seems to think it is.
Focusing in specifically on the ideal, godly wife, the picture painted at the tail end of the collection of Proverbs is of a woman who is strong, smart, savvy, and super in every way. She’s involved in her own business ventures. She is creative and resourceful in how she helps provide for her family. She has a great mind for economics and always makes sure things are more than ship-shape. She is up on the latest goings-on of the community and world. She raises her children to be great citizens. She is the delight of her husband. She is godly and plays a vital role in leading her family down the path of God. She is, in short, a treasure in every way. How is anything about this picture not desirable?
If you are a smart husband, this is the image you want your wife to resemble. Nothing in the culture around you comes close to this picture in terms of who you want your wife to be. If you are not yet married, look for a woman like this. Don’t let any of the measuring sticks your buddies use be your guide. This is the one you want. And when you get her, you make sure you read very carefully what Paul had to say about husbands in Ephesians 5 so you treat her like she deserves. If you are married, you keep studying those words closely so you can continue to honor her properly.
As for me, I’ve got my Proverbs 31 prize already. My great delight is to strive to honor her accordingly. May you find and keep yours.